F&F 11: Blogging Tip, Don’t get too attached
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Share something you’ve learned about book blogging or just blogging in general in the last month.
Don’t get too attached.
- to the authors whose books you review
- to the reviews you write
- to social media and blogging communities
- to your blog
- to the drama on Goodreads/Amazon
To the authors whose books your review: The more friendly you are with authors, the harder it will be to remain non-bias in your reviews. Are you really saying that the book was the best thing since Harry Potter or do you just not want to hurt that nice author’s feelings? Don’t jeopardize your integrity because you’re afraid of feelings getting hurt. If you think you’re too close to an author to write a review of a book objectively, then don’t do it. If you read a book by an author you like, but you don’t like it, there are ONLY two good options. 1) Don’t write the review. 2) Write the damn one-star review.
There are times where I read a book that someone else recommends and I’m like “WTF kind of medication was she on when reading this? IS THIS EVEN ENGLISH?” Firstly, if there are grammar issues…there’s no way you can rate the book 5 stars. I don’t care if it’s your sister. If people can’t trust your reviews to be accurate, then no one will want to read your reviews.
To the reviews you write: There will come times where people will think your opinion is crap. It may be the author. It might be other reviewers. It might be some random hobo who just happened to be browsing Amazon. Your review will be criticised and dissected. You could potentially look and/or feel like an idiot when you read the comments on your review. The best thing for you to do is DISTANCE yourself from responding until you can answer without being emotionally estranged.
- Figure out if there are errors in your review or if some moron is trolling you.
- If you’re not wrong, find evidence in the book to support your review.
- If you’re wrong, fix it!
If you approach the situation logically and not emotionally, then you will come off as the better person. Crying on twitter or accusing the other person of harassment only makes you look like you’re attention-seeking and looking for drama. Let SOMEONE ELSE point out the obvious.
To the events unfolding on social media: Don’t try to answer every tweet or like every Facebook status that pops up in your feed. It’s okay to have a life outside of the internet. I used to always feel guilty that I wasn’t participating enough in the community. But, it’s okay to miss out on #authorevents on Twitter. It’s okay to not respond to that email within five minutes. It’s okay if you don’t retweet every single post on Tribbr. It’s okay to have a life outside of blogging.
To your blog: You have my permission to not post every day. You know what? How about tomorrow we both take the day off from blogging and go yard-sailing. We can go hunt for some bargain books and bookshelves. Sound good? Don’t worry, there is no blogging police that will email publishers and say, “Don’t give so-and-so this ARC because she didn’t post on last Thursday. There were exactly 26 hours between posts.”
To the drama on Goodreads and Amazon: There is a war between authors/reviewers. And you know what? I don’t give a flying fuck. It’s a handful of people on both sides who can’t separate the internet from real life. It doesn’t really matter if someone did call you a wet diaper on Goodreads. If they do it to your face, well, then I have a fresh, wet, stinky diaper you can slug them with.
So, why is it so important not to get too attached?
Because the reason YOU started a book review blog was because you love BOOKS. Don’t let the hobby ruin your passion for books.